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Testimonials


"A.J., your ebook about Verbal Abuse helped me to realize so much. I needed to know that I was placing myself in danger and that verbal abuse is not something to minimize. I also needed to know that toxic relating isn't love. Thanks so much for writing and making that ebook available."

-- Duke P., Ireland

"I totally recommend that anyone who wants to really understand BPD buy A.J. Mahari's ebooks and audio programs. Along with all her stuff on the web they are even more insightful and informative. After purchasing A.J.'s products I did some life coaching with her too. A.J. doesn't just write about BPD, she has lived it. She has lived both sides of it. She is an amazing life coach too. With A.J.'s support I am making my way through the pain and grief of having loved someone with BPD and coming to terms with the reasons for the relationship and my need to let go."

-- Rick Meyers, Scotland

"Listening to A.J.'s Audio Program, "Breaking Free From the BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines" has really changed my entire way of thinking. I was married to a man with BPD and A.J.'s wise words in the audio were just what I needed to finally make the decision to take my life back."

-- Mary Redmond, U.S.A.

6 Ebook - 2 Audio Program Bundle For Non Borderlines

6 Ebook - 2 Audio Program Bundle  For Non Borderlines

Price: $110.99

This purchase bundle of 6 ebooks and 2 audio programs is for those who are a family member, loved one, ex or relationship partner - non borderlines.



Included in this 6 ebook purchase package are the following ebooks:

A.J.'s 3 "Core wound of Abandonment" series of ebooks

You can read a brief summary of each ebook and audio program by scrolling down the page.

  • The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder
The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder

The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder - A.J. Mahari gives a detailed history of how and why the abandoned pain of those with BPD keeps them stuck in the agonizing and seemingly mystifying suffering of BPD.

Mahari explores and examines the reality that the abandonment of one's own pain is the result of the distorted belief that it must be escaped at all costs. Those who go on to develop BPD had to initially abandon their pain in order to actually survive psychologically, albeit in fragmented pieces. However, in adulthood those with BPD must now welcome back in this abandoned and dissociated pain in order to integrate the fragments of self. It is these fragments of self and the loss of one's authentic self that leaves those with BPD without a known identity or stable sense of a known self. Being held at bay, dissociated from one's own authentic self by this abandoned borderline pain is what keeps those with BPD so stuck in untold profound suffering, isolation, learned helplessness, and alienated loneliness.

Mahari shows the borderline what this abandoned pain is trying to communicate and reveal and why. Borderline pain needs to be addressed in new and much more functional ways that enable the borderline to learn new coping skills.


The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder

The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook

This ebook presents a thorough examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment in BPD exploring various aspects of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists. Mahari examines what she calls "the core wound of abandonment" as one who has been there, as a woman who had BPD and has recovered. In this comprehensive ebook, A.J. outlines the definition, scope, and meaning of the core wound of abandonment. She describes it as the central wound that drives the emotional and relational devastation experienced by those with BPD, those who treat them, and those who care about and/or love them.

The anatomy of the core wound of abandonment is examined and explained. Along with her own experience of abandonment and her ruptured relationship with her own mother, Mahari has written an unbelievably detailed and insightful examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment. A.J. Mahari offers her readers, in this ebook, a detailed look at how and why the core wound of abandonment is so destructive to those with BPD and everyone who gets anywhere near them relationally. Mahari writes that the destruction of the core wound of abandonment leads directly to the loss of self - a loss of authentic self that creates the false self organization of Borderline Personality Disorder. She also offers solutions and maps out the things that every borderline needs to learn if they want to recover, as A.J. has. Mahari shares the steps that she had to take, the pitfalls that block change and the awareness required to get on and stay on the road of and to recovery.


The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self That is Born Out of the Core Wound of Abandonment

False Self Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook

The Shadows and Echoes of Self is a 127 pages providing an indepth and revealing examination of the false self personality organization of Borderline Personality Disorder that arises out of the core wound of abandonment. Included is a comprehensive look at the similarities and differences between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

From her experience as someone who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, Mahari looks at the roots and origins of pathological narcissism through the Myth of Narcissus and its relation to the borderline lack of self that gives way the pathologically narcissistic false self in Borderline Personality Disorder.

With reference to Plato's Myth of the Cave and Jung's Shadow Self, Mahari defines and paints an accurate picture of the false self of BPD, its pathological narcissism, and its need for narcissistic defense mechanisms and the effect that this has internally for those with BPD and externally for those around them - non borderlines.

Mahari knows from personal experience that it is only by becoming aware of one's borderline false self and its pathological narcissism that those with BPD can then do the work of uncovering and finding the lost authentic self. The authentic self that was lost to the core wound of abandonment in early chlidhood. This is the road to recovery for those with BPD. It must first begin with a mindful and radically accepting awareness and understanding of the borderline false self and its bubble of narcissism.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A.J. Mahari delves into the subject of cultural narcissism as a backdrop for the narcissism housed within BPD exploring the reality that narcissism is not just a stalwart of NPD. Mahari explores various archetypes and myths aimed at increasing the readers understanding of narcissism in a cultural context.


And A.J.'s 3 ebooks aimed specifically at Non Borderlines
  • The Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder - Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance for Non Borderlines
  • Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines
  • The Dilemma On The Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder - Can Borderlines Love? Do Borderlines Feel Love?

The Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder - Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance For Non Borderlines

Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
This ebook consists of eight chapters that will enhance the journey of anyone who has (or has had) a borderline in his/her life. A.J. Mahari writes insightfully about how Non-Borderlines can free themselves from the chaotic painful drama of the borderline in their lives through the practice of Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance.


When a non-borderline is lost in the tumultuous world of a borderline it can cause untold pain and suffering. A.J. outlines 3 reasons why non-borderlines often remain hooked into the borderline's drama. Mahari also outlines the 3 main roadblocks to the practice of Radical Acceptance for Non-Borderlines as well as describing what keeps non-borderlines trapped in their own pain and suffering.

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines

Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines
A.J. Mahari was in the non-borderline role as a child with 2 parents with Borderline Personality Disorder. She shares the lessons that experience taught her. She then grew and developed and was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Years later, at the age of 38 she recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder. Then six years after her recovery from BPD she found herself in a complicated and most unusual significant other relationship with an untreated borderline. Mahari has experienced it all and come out of it all on the other side, healthier, stronger, more insightful and much wiser for the lessons. This ebook is a must read for anyone in a relationship with someone with BPD.

The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD - Can Borderlines Love? Do Borderlines Feel Love?

The Dilemma on Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
The Dilemma on the other side of Borderline Personality Disorder, for the Non Borderline is a painful one. It is a dilemma driven by many questions. The source of those questions can be difficult for non borderlines to face. A.J. Mahari addresses what is at the heart of the non borderline dilemma, can borderlines love? Do borderlines feel love? Mahari not only answers these questions from the perspective of a recovered borderline but she also explains with incredible and unique insight of one who has been there why borderlines love the way that they do.




And Two Audio Programs for Non Borderlines:

  • The Breaking Free of The BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines
  • Dilemma on The Other Side of BPD - Overcoming Denial about BPD and Love

Breaking Free From the BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines

Break Free of Borderline Personality Maze Recovery For Nons Audio Program
This audio program is 1 hour and 25 minutes of Mahari's must hear insight and experience. In the audio program, "Breaking Free of The Borderline Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines" A.J. Mahari speaks from the heart and from experience to those Non Borderlines who need to end their relationship with someone with BPD. She also speaks directly to those who may have ended a relationship but are still having trouble letting go and who may still be more focused on the borderline to the point that it is not good for their own mental health.


Tracks in This Audio Program includes:

Track 1: Why am I still stuck? Why does it still hurt so much?

Track 2: Mistakes Are Growth Opportunities. Are you ready to Learn Your Way Out of the BPD Maze?

Track 3: Trying to Make Sense Out of the Senseless

Track 4: Two Paths and Two Choices - Are you at this fork in the road on the other side of BPD?

Track 5: Recovery For Non Borderlines - What it is and why you need it.

Dilemma on The Other Side of BPD - Overcoming Denial about BPD and Love

Overcoming Denial Borderline Personality And Love For Non Borderlines Audio Program
This audio program is 2 1/2 hours of Mahari's must hear insight and experience on and about the reality of love and BPD for non borderlines. In the audio program, "The Dilemma On the Other Side of BPD - Overcoming Denial About Borderline Personality Disorder and Love" A.J. Mahari shares revealing insightful information about Borderline Personality Disorder and Love - How to Break Out and Stay out of Denial. Non Borderlines in any type of relationship with someone with BPD will benefit from hearing A.J.'s insider knowledge about love and BPD.


Tracks in This Audio Program includes:

Track 1 - 10:38 How Does The Non Borderline End Up In So Much Pain and Denial?

Track 2 - 18:47 The Reality of Borderline False Self and Love - A.J. Shares Her Inside Experience

Track 3 - 32:58 BPD: What Does Love Have To Do With It?

Track 4 - 64:11 The Real Hostage Taker In The Arena of Love On The Other Side of BPD

Track 5 - 32:02 What is the Story that Fuels Your Denial and The Dilemma?



All Audio Programs are in mp3 format. All Ebooks are in PDF format. Audio Programs and Ebooks are available for electronic download only upon purchase.

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"We have two worlds and one bridge. That bridge where we can journey toward connection is understanding. Let us all walk this bridge that spans our differences toward its centre with tolerance and an attitude of gratitude for these sacred differences that challenge us to shelter and nurture our humanity with care."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Asperger's Syndrome and Adulthood"

"Each one of us is born alone. Born to be the very unique human being that he/she is. Each one of us will die alone. In between, in the natural order of life, there are times when we must be alone due to circumstance or times when we may need to be alone to take care of ourselves and find our own way through troubled and painful seasons. Being alone is not necessarily the reason for feeling the pain of loneliness."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Loneliness - Its Promise of Transformation"

"Why is it that we allow so much pain and chaos to be a part of how we define love? What is it that we still need to learn so that we can free ourselves from the burden and the pain of investing in rescuing a borderline? What is it that you still need more awareness about? What are the lessons?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines"