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"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"Listening to A.J.'s Audio Program, "Breaking Free From the BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines" has really changed my entire way of thinking. I was married to a man with BPD and A.J.'s wise words in the audio were just what I needed to finally make the decision to take my life back."

-- Mary Redmond, U.S.A.

Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD 3 Ebook Series

Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD 3 Ebook Series

Price: $69.99

 

A.J. Mahari has written 3 ebooks that all deal with aspects of what she has termed the "core wound of abandonment" in Borderline Personality Disorder. In this bundle you can purchase all 3 ebooks together. This purchase package is for anyone wanting to learn much more about Borderline Personality Disorder whether you have BPD or are a non borderline and know someone who had BPD.

Included in this 3 Ebook Bundle are the following ebooks:

  • The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder

Also available now is A.J. Mahari's Core Wound of Abandonment In BPD 5 Ebook Bundle. This bundle includes the three ebooks above along with the following 2 Ebooks:

  • The Lost Self In Borderline Personality Disorder - The On-Going Impact of Abandonment In BPD 1
  • The Rock and a Hard Place of Borderline Personality Disorder - Abandonment Obstacles To Recovery From BPD


    "The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder"

    The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
    A.J. examines the reality that, for those diagnosed with BPD, the abandonment of one's own pain is the result of the distorted belief that it must be escaped at all costs. Outling that those who go on to develop BPD had to initially abandon their pain in order to actually survive psychologically, albeit in fragmented pieces. However, in adulthood those with BPD must now welcome back in this abandoned and dissociated pain in order to integrate the fragments of self. It is these fragments of self and the loss of one's authentic self that leaves those with BPD without a known identity or stable sense of a known self. Being held at bay, dissociated from one's own authentic self by this abandoned borderline pain is what keeps those with BPD so stuck in untold profound suffering, isolation, learned helplessness, and alienated loneliness.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     




    "The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder"

    The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
    This ebook presents a thorough examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment in BPD. It is the second ebook in a series of 5 exploring various aspects of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists. Mahari examines what she calls "the core wound of abandonment" as one who has been there, as a woman who had BPD and has recovered.

     

    In this comprehensive ebook, A.J. outlines the definition, scope, and meaning of the core wound of abandonment. She describes it as the central wound that drives the emotional and relational devastation experienced by those with BPD, those who treat them, and those who care about and/or love them.

     

    The anatomy of the core wound of abandonment is examined and explained. Along with her own experience of abandonment and her ruptured relationship with her own mother, A.J. has written an unbelievably detailed and insightful examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment. A.J. offers her readers, in this ebook, a detailed look at how and why the core wound of abandonment is so destructive to those with BPD and everyone who gets anywhere near them relationally. A.J. writes that the destruction of the core wound of abandonment leads directly to the loss of self - a loss of authentic self that creates the false self organization of Borderline Personality Disorder. She also offers solutions and maps out the things that every borderline needs to learn if they want to recover, as A.J. has. A.J. shares the steps that she had to take, the pitfalls that block change and the awareness required to get on and stay on the road of and to recovery.


    Whether you have BPD or are in (have been in)a relationship (friend, family member, significant other, ex-partner) with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as any professional treating someone with BPD will benefit from the insight A.J. Mahari shares from her own borderline experience, and her journey to her recovery from BPD.



    "The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self in BPD"

    False Self Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook

    In this ebook A.J. Mahari examines the root cause of the false self in BPD. Included is a comprehensive look at the similarities and differences between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A.J. Mahari delves into the subject of cultural narcissism as a backdrop for the narcissism housed within BPD exploring the reality that narcissism is not just a stalwart of NPD. Mahari explores various archetypes and myths aimed at increasing the readers understanding of narcissism in a cultural context.

     

    From her experience as someone who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, Mahari looks at the roots and origins of pathological narcissism through the Myth of Narcissus and its relation to the borderline lack of self that gives way the pathologically narcissistic false self in Borderline Personality Disorder.

     

    With reference to Plato's Myth of the Cave and Jung's Shadow Self, Mahari defines and paints an accurate picture of the false self of BPD, its pathological narcissism, and its need for narcissistic defense mechanisms and the effect that this has internally for those with BPD and externally for those around them - non borderlines.

     

    Mahari knows from personal experience that it is only by becoming aware of one's borderline false self and its pathological narcissism that those with BPD can then do the work of uncovering and finding the lost authentic self. The authentic self that was lost to the core wound of abandonment in early chlidhood. This is the road to recovery for those with BPD. It must first begin with a mindful and radically accepting awareness and understanding of the borderline false self and its bubble of narcissism.


    All Audio Programs are in mp3 format. All Ebooks are in PDF format. Audio Programs and Ebooks are available for electronic download only upon purchase.

     

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    Quotes From A.J. Mahari


    "Each one of us is born alone. Born to be the very unique human being that he/she is. Each one of us will die alone. In between, in the natural order of life, there are times when we must be alone due to circumstance or times when we may need to be alone to take care of ourselves and find our own way through troubled and painful seasons. Being alone is not necessarily the reason for feeling the pain of loneliness."

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Loneliness - Its Promise of Transformation"

    "The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

    "At the heart of much of what results in relating to someone with BPD is conflict. Are you experiencing an high and/or destructive level of conflict? What is driving that conflict? Is that conflict blocking intimacy and closeness? How do you react to this conflict? Is your own behaviour deteriorating in response to the conflict generated by the borderline in your life? What is it about all of this conflict that you are investing in and why?"

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Other Side of BPD"