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"I didn't think anyone else could possibly know or understand what I was going through. I also didn't think anyone could be so compassionate and patient with me as A.J. Mahari was as my life coach. She gave me support, information, and tools. Tools that have enabled me to truly find myself and to set and achieve my goals. Thanks so much for everything A.J.! -- Mandy"

-- M., Ontario, Canada

"I totally recommend that anyone who wants to really understand BPD buy A.J. Mahari's ebooks and audio programs. Along with all her stuff on the web they are even more insightful and informative. After purchasing A.J.'s products I did some life coaching with her too. A.J. doesn't just write about BPD, she has lived it. She has lived both sides of it. She is an amazing life coach too. With A.J.'s support I am making my way through the pain and grief of having loved someone with BPD and coming to terms with the reasons for the relationship and my need to let go."

-- Rick Meyers, Scotland

"I have BPD and I had absolutely no hope for myself until I listened A.J. Mahari's Audio, Finding Hope From the Polarized Negativity of BPD. This and a few other audios I listened to taught me so much. I now have hope. I now understand how I have kept myself trapped in my own borderline chaos as a way of not feeling my pain. I can now change this. I highly recommend others with BPD listen to A.J.'s Audios for Borderlines."

-- Lindy Sinclair, U.S.A.

Understanding BPD 1 - The Lost Self - The Impact of the core wound of abandonment Ebook

Understanding BPD 1 - The Lost Self - The Impact of the core wound of abandonment Ebook

Price: $18.99

Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self - The Impact of The Core Wound of Abandonment Book features a thorough examination and explanation geared toward helping you understand Borderline Personality Disorder and gain insight into and awareness of the impact of the core wound of abandonment in BPD and the direct effect of it on how and why people diagnosed with BPD do not have a stable sense of indentity. More than just lacking a stable sense of identity, however, it is much more accurate to realize that people with BPD have truly lost the authentic self inside. They live from a false self - that is the central core dynamic of so much of everything that is "borderline" - behavior, relating, splitting, punishing, and so forth. The on-going legacy of the core wound of abandonment unless and until people with BPD find help, support, validation, and expert coaching (like I offer) and/or therapy the defense mechanims that are employed in efforts to protect against pain that one has no coping tools or skills for is what directly keeps you stuck and blocked in the pain of BPD. "Borderline" defense mechanisms are protective, primitive, about the past and no longer work in the here and now. To heal, get better, and recover, it is necessary to first peel back the layers of those defenses and the negative core beliefs that support them so that you can really get on the road to finding the lost authentic self - a self that Object Relations Theorist Melanie Klein said essentially dies at the time of emotional arrests in development. Klein said, that the woundedness of those who go on to develop mental illness and BPD, specifically, experience, "... they psychological death of the otherwise burgeoning authentic self."
 
You can find, reclaim, and re-parent your lost authentic self, you really can.
 
 © A.J. Mahari, September 2008
 
This Ebook explains, from the inside out, the many layers and various aspects of the impact of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists.
 
This ebook includes 141 pages that provide a deeper understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder. Mahari has written a series of 3 ebooks that explain, explore, examine and define what she has termed, "the core wound of abandonment in BPD."
 
In this newest series of 2 ebooks Mahari shares her insight, from the inside out, as one who has recovered from BPD. She outlines what she has identified as the impact of the core wound of abandonment. This first ebook, "The Lost Self" in this series provides understanding about how the core wound of abandonment has impacted the lost borderline self and what that really means in terms of how BPD is experienced by those who have it.
 
This ebook "Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self" - The Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment and its companion ebook, second Ebook in this series, "The Rock and Hard Place in BPD" in are sequels or follow-ups to Mahari's first series of 3 ebooks in her "Core Wound of Abandonment" series (which you can purchase here by looking under the Ebook Bundles category in the left hand menu) and are not the same at all. They will add to your understanding.
 
First, one has to know what the core wound of abandonment is and in this series of ebooks A.J. Mahari expands on the impact of this core wound of abandonment explaining many of the mystery puzzle-like aspects and manifestations of BPD so that those with BPD and those who are family members, loved ones or relationship partners of someone with BPD - non borderlines can really increase their awareness of just how to create the kind of change that recovery from BPD requires.

 

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

"Each one of us is born alone. Born to be the very unique human being that he/she is. Each one of us will die alone. In between, in the natural order of life, there are times when we must be alone due to circumstance or times when we may need to be alone to take care of ourselves and find our own way through troubled and painful seasons. Being alone is not necessarily the reason for feeling the pain of loneliness."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Loneliness - Its Promise of Transformation"

"At the heart of much of what results in relating to someone with BPD is conflict. Are you experiencing an high and/or destructive level of conflict? What is driving that conflict? Is that conflict blocking intimacy and closeness? How do you react to this conflict? Is your own behaviour deteriorating in response to the conflict generated by the borderline in your life? What is it about all of this conflict that you are investing in and why?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Other Side of BPD"