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"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"I have BPD and I had absolutely no hope for myself until I listened A.J. Mahari's Audio, Finding Hope From the Polarized Negativity of BPD. This and a few other audios I listened to taught me so much. I now have hope. I now understand how I have kept myself trapped in my own borderline chaos as a way of not feeling my pain. I can now change this. I highly recommend others with BPD listen to A.J.'s Audios for Borderlines."

-- Lindy Sinclair, U.S.A.

"A.J.'s Ebook and Audio Program for Non Borderlines - The Dilemma on The Other Side of BPD was a life-saver for me. From both the ebook and the audio program I learned so much about BPD that I still needed to understand so that I could make sense out of the chaos and turmoil of a relationship I was in and the pain of it all. This information helped me come to terms with the reality that love wasn't really what I thought it was. Thanks so much A.J.!"

-- Cindy Mcphail, London, England

Understanding BPD 1 - The Lost Self - The Impact of the core wound of abandonment Ebook

Understanding BPD 1 - The Lost Self - The Impact of the core wound of abandonment Ebook

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Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self - The Impact of The Core Wound of Abandonment Book features a thorough examination and explanation geared toward helping you understand Borderline Personality Disorder and gain insight into and awareness of the impact of the core wound of abandonment in BPD and the direct effect of it on how and why people diagnosed with BPD do not have a stable sense of indentity. More than just lacking a stable sense of identity, however, it is much more accurate to realize that people with BPD have truly lost the authentic self inside. They live from a false self - that is the central core dynamic of so much of everything that is "borderline" - behavior, relating, splitting, punishing, and so forth. The on-going legacy of the core wound of abandonment unless and until people with BPD find help, support, validation, and expert coaching (like I offer) and/or therapy the defense mechanims that are employed in efforts to protect against pain that one has no coping tools or skills for is what directly keeps you stuck and blocked in the pain of BPD. "Borderline" defense mechanisms are protective, primitive, about the past and no longer work in the here and now. To heal, get better, and recover, it is necessary to first peel back the layers of those defenses and the negative core beliefs that support them so that you can really get on the road to finding the lost authentic self - a self that Object Relations Theorist Melanie Klein said essentially dies at the time of emotional arrests in development. Klein said, that the woundedness of those who go on to develop mental illness and BPD, specifically, experience, "... they psychological death of the otherwise burgeoning authentic self."
You can find, reclaim, and re-parent your lost authentic self, you really can.
 © A.J. Mahari, September 2008
This Ebook explains, from the inside out, the many layers and various aspects of the impact of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists.
This ebook includes 141 pages that provide a deeper understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder. Mahari has written a series of 3 ebooks that explain, explore, examine and define what she has termed, "the core wound of abandonment in BPD."
In this newest series of 2 ebooks Mahari shares her insight, from the inside out, as one who has recovered from BPD. She outlines what she has identified as the impact of the core wound of abandonment. This first ebook, "The Lost Self" in this series provides understanding about how the core wound of abandonment has impacted the lost borderline self and what that really means in terms of how BPD is experienced by those who have it.
This ebook "Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self" - The Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment and its companion ebook, second Ebook in this series, "The Rock and Hard Place in BPD" in are sequels or follow-ups to Mahari's first series of 3 ebooks in her "Core Wound of Abandonment" series (which you can purchase here by looking under the Ebook Bundles category in the left hand menu) and are not the same at all. They will add to your understanding.
First, one has to know what the core wound of abandonment is and in this series of ebooks A.J. Mahari expands on the impact of this core wound of abandonment explaining many of the mystery puzzle-like aspects and manifestations of BPD so that those with BPD and those who are family members, loved ones or relationship partners of someone with BPD - non borderlines can really increase their awareness of just how to create the kind of change that recovery from BPD requires.


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Quotes From A.J. Mahari

"Are you confused? Are you in pain? Do you find yourself overly-focused on the person with BPD? Are you trying to make sense out of the borderline's shifting moods or contradictory behaviour? I have been there. I know what it takes to break free on the other side of BPD. Breaking free from the BPD maze means getting back in touch and in tune with yourself."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "Breaking Free From The BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines"

"What is in the way - is the way. If you have Borderline Personality Disorder it is the fundamental absence of a known self that sits at the very core of your pain, anger, and your rage. It is your rage that stands between your borderline pain and suffering and your recovery. Your lack of a known and defined self is what is in your way."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Rage And BPD"

"If you have Borderline Personality Disorder you have met your one true enemy -- yourself -- namely, your false self to be much more specific. This false self becomes the shadow self experienced by those with BPD. The more you deny the Shadow Self, the more likely it is that you will be blind to your own faults and find those faults in others. Denying the false self, the shadow self, in BPD, only perpetuates your pain and suffering."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False in BPD"