"A.J., your ebook about Verbal Abuse helped me to realize so much. I needed to know that I was placing myself in danger and that verbal abuse is not something to minimize. I also needed to know that toxic relating isn't love. Thanks so much for writing and making that ebook available."
-- Duke P., Ireland
"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."
-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada
"I bought A.J. Mahari's ebook, on Loneliness. Wow! So much insightful and informative stuff. I had not ever really thought about there being anything positive about loneliness. You taught me so much. I have been able to make some wonderful changes in my life because your ebook helped me to learn that the place to start was with my attitude toward and thoughts about loneliness. Thanks so much A.J. and may God continue to bless all the work that you do."
"At the heart of much of what results in relating to someone with BPD is conflict. Are you experiencing an high and/or destructive level of conflict? What is driving that conflict? Is that conflict blocking intimacy and closeness? How do you react to this conflict? Is your own behaviour deteriorating in response to the conflict generated by the borderline in your life? What is it about all of this conflict that you are investing in and why?"
-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Other Side of BPD"
"The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"
-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?
"The central source of negativity in BPD is what I call the core wound of abandonment. It is the abandonment wound that is the foundation of the black-and-white all-or-nothing thinking that perpetuates the borderline one-sided and pervasive negative experience in life. This negativity in those with BPD blocks them from the experience of hope. Hope is a central ingredient necessary for getting on the road to recovery."
-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "Finding Hope From The Polarized Negativity of BPD"