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"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"I am in a relationship with a borderline. I was at my wits end and in so much pain. I was so confused. Then I purchased and read A.J. Mahari's 3 Ebooks for Non Borderlines and I found her amazing first-hand knowledge and insight life-changing and so emotionally freeing. I feel like I owe my emotional peace and freedom to you A.J., thanks so much for all you do and all you share to help others."

-- Mike Miller, Chicago, U.S.A.

"If you want to know more about Borderline Personality Disorder, as a borderline, or non borderline, I totally recommend that you buy A.J. Mahari's 3 Core Wound of Abandonment Ebooks. I have searched all over the web, read everything I could, including lots of other books and nothing was even close to as helpful to me as A.J.'s insightful explanation of abandonment in BPD. Finally, I understand.Thank you A.J. for the incredible gift of the insight you share that you learned through your own life experience."

-- Katy Gilchrist, Alberta, Canada

The Legacy Of Abandonment In Borderline Personality Disorder - The Core Wound of Abandonment

The Legacy Of Abandonment In  Borderline Personality Disorder - The Core Wound of Abandonment

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The Legacy Of Abandonment In Borderline Personality Disorder - The Core Wound of Abandonment

This ebook presents a thorough examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment in BPD. It is the second ebook in a series of 5 exploring various aspects of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists.
 

This ebook, available now, includes 6 chapters and 170 pages of must read revelation about the intricate and complicated nature of the core wound of abandonment, that is the root-cause of the emotional and relational devastation of Borderline Personality Disorder.

In this comprehensive ebook, A.J. Mahari outlines the definition, scope, and meaning of the core wound of abandonment. She describes it as the central wound that drives the emotional and relational devastation experienced by those with BPD, those who treat them, and those who care about and/or love them.

The anatomy of the core wound of abandonment is examined and explained. Along with her own experience of abandonment and her ruptured relationship with her own mother, Mahari has written an unbelievably detailed and insightful examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment. A.J. Mahari offers her readers, in this ebook, a detailed look at how and why the core wound of abandonment is so destructive to those with BPD and everyone who gets anywhere near them relationally. Mahari writes that the destruction of the core wound of abandonment leads directly to the loss of self - a loss of authentic self that creates the false self organization of Borderline Personality Disorder. She also offers solutions and maps out the things that every borderline needs to learn if they want to recover, as A.J. has. Mahari shares the steps that she had to take, the pitfalls that block change and the awareness required to get on and stay on the road of and to recovery.
 


Whether you have BPD or are in (have been in)a relationship (friend, family member, significant other, ex-partner) with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as any professional treating someone with BPD will benefit from the insight A.J. Mahari shares from her own borderline experience, and her journey to her recovery from BPD.
 


Along with much more, A.J. outlines the following in this ebook:

  • What is BPD? What Causes BPD?
  • Note To Mothers Of Someone With BPD
  • Object Relations Theory
  • Abandonment and Loss of Self
  • A.J. Mahari's Experience: "My Mother and My Abandonment Wound"
  • The Shame at the core of the Abandonment Wound
  • The Significance of the Loss of Self to the core wound of abandonment
  • The Effect of Abandonment on Relating
  • Abandonment Fear Identified and Defined - It's role in Pathological Relating
  • A look at The Catalyst For Abandonment Fear
  • How Borderlines Act Out Abandonment Fear
  • Abandonment Fear and Violence
  • The role of Abandonment Fear on Trust
  • A.J. Mahari's own personal experience with what was her Abandonment Wound
  • The central negatively impacting aspect of the abandonment wound in BPD
  • Emotional Entanglement and Enmeshment resulting from The Abandonment Wound
  • The Destruction caused By The Abandonment Wound
  • 16 Signs That Indicate Toxic Relating
  • Codependency: Where Borderlines and Non Borderline meet 
  • The Terror of Need experienced in BPD
  • BPD and Negative Psychological Associations
  • Inability to soothe in BPD and its impact on relating
  • How and why those with BPD re-experience abandonment when attempting to connect and relate
  • The Borderline Mask of Intimate Other
  • Borderline Fear of and Inability To Be Alone
  • The Borderline Quest For Rescue - the re-abandonment of "self"
  • Inability of those with BPD to soothe key negative impact to relating
  • What is at the core of the "borderline" lost self
  • Toxic Shame
  • Role that shame play in self-hatred in those with BPD
  • Guilt
  • Irrational beliefs that arise from the guilt of The Borderline False Self

 

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

"If you have Borderline Personality Disorder you have met your one true enemy -- yourself -- namely, your false self to be much more specific. This false self becomes the shadow self experienced by those with BPD. The more you deny the Shadow Self, the more likely it is that you will be blind to your own faults and find those faults in others. Denying the false self, the shadow self, in BPD, only perpetuates your pain and suffering."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False in BPD"

"Hope for change and recovery in a loved one with BPD often causes non borderlines to compulsively focus on the borderline and try to fix him or her in ways that only increase the pain, suffering, and confusion for the non borderline. When is hope really hope? When is hope false hope? I talk about the different faces and consequences of hope. Hope is often one of the biggest hooks and traps for the non borderline and I explain why."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of BPD"