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"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"I just wanted to let you know, A.J., how helpful your ebooks and audio programs have been to me. Thanks for all the hard work you do and for putting yourself and your own painful experience out there as gifts to those still trying to find their own way."

-- Donald S., U.S.A.

"A.J., your ebook about Verbal Abuse helped me to realize so much. I needed to know that I was placing myself in danger and that verbal abuse is not something to minimize. I also needed to know that toxic relating isn't love. Thanks so much for writing and making that ebook available."

-- Duke P., Ireland

5 Ebooks - Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD Series

5 Ebooks - Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD Series

Price: $89.99

A.J. Mahari has written 5 ebooks that all deal with aspects of what she has termed the "core wound of abandonment" in Borderline Personality Disorder. In this bundle you can purchase all 5 ebooks together. This bundle package is for anyone wanting to learn much more about Borderline Personality Disorder whether you have BPD or are a Loved One - a non borderline - and know someone who had BPD.

Included in this 3 Ebook Bundle are the following ebooks:

  • The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self in Borderline Personality Disorder

Also available now is A.J. Mahari's 5 Core Wound of Abandonment In BPD Ebook Bundle. This bundle includes the three ebooks above along with the following 2 Ebooks:

  • The Lost Self In Borderline Personality Disorder - The On-Going Impact of Abandonment In BPD 1
  • The Rock and a Hard Place of Borderline Personality Disorder - Abandonment Obstacles To Recovery From BPD


    "The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder"

    The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
    A.J. examines the reality that, for those diagnosed with BPD, the abandonment of one's own pain is the result of the distorted belief that it must be escaped at all costs. Outling that those who go on to develop BPD had to initially abandon their pain in order to actually survive psychologically, albeit in fragmented pieces. However, in adulthood those with BPD must now welcome back in this abandoned and dissociated pain in order to integrate the fragments of self. It is these fragments of self and the loss of one's authentic self that leaves those with BPD without a known identity or stable sense of a known self. Being held at bay, dissociated from one's own authentic self by this abandoned borderline pain is what keeps those with BPD so stuck in untold profound suffering, isolation, learned helplessness, and alienated loneliness.

     

     



    "The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder"

    The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook
    This ebook presents a thorough examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment in BPD. It is the second ebook in a series of 5 exploring various aspects of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists. Mahari examines what she calls "the core wound of abandonment" as one who has been there, as a woman who had BPD and has recovered.

    Abandonment is at the core of Borderline Personality Disorder. This unresolved abandonment trauma plays an important role in everything "borderline".

    In this comprehensive ebook, A.J. outlines the definition, scope, and meaning of the core wound of abandonment. She describes it as the central wound that drives the emotional and relational devastation experienced by those with BPD, those who treat them, and those who care about and/or love them.

     

    The anatomy of the core wound of abandonment is examined and explained. Along with her own experience of abandonment and her ruptured relationship with her own mother, A.J. has written an unbelievably detailed and insightful examination and explanation of the core wound of abandonment. A.J. offers her readers, in this ebook, a detailed look at how and why the core wound of abandonment is so destructive to those with BPD and everyone who gets anywhere near them relationally. A.J. writes that the destruction of the core wound of abandonment leads directly to the loss of self - a loss of authentic self that creates the false self organization of Borderline Personality Disorder. She also offers solutions and maps out the things that every borderline needs to learn if they want to recover, as A.J. has. A.J. shares the steps that she had to take, the pitfalls that block change and the awareness required to get on and stay on the road of and to recovery.


    Whether you have BPD or are in (have been in)a relationship (friend, family member, significant other, ex-partner) with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as any professional treating someone with BPD will benefit from the insight A.J. Mahari shares from her own borderline experience, and her journey to her recovery from BPD.



    "The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self in BPD"

    False Self Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder Ebook

    In this ebook A.J. Mahari examines the root cause of the false self in BPD. Included is a comprehensive look at the similarities and differences between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A.J. Mahari delves into the subject of cultural narcissism as a backdrop for the narcissism housed within BPD exploring the reality that narcissism is not just a stalwart of NPD. Mahari explores various archetypes and myths aimed at increasing the readers understanding of narcissism in a cultural context.

     

    From her experience as someone who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder, Mahari looks at the roots and origins of pathological narcissism through the Myth of Narcissus and its relation to the borderline lack of self that gives way the pathologically narcissistic false self in Borderline Personality Disorder.

     

    With reference to Plato's Myth of the Cave and Jung's Shadow Self, Mahari defines and paints an accurate picture of the false self of BPD, its pathological narcissism, and its need for narcissistic defense mechanisms and the effect that this has internally for those with BPD and externally for those around them - non borderlines.

     

    Mahari knows from personal experience that it is only by becoming aware of one's borderline false self and its pathological narcissism that those with BPD can then do the work of uncovering and finding the lost authentic self. The authentic self that was lost to the core wound of abandonment in early chlidhood. This is the road to recovery for those with BPD. It must first begin with a mindful and radically accepting awareness and understanding of the borderline false self and its bubble of narcissism.

     

     

    Understanding BPD - The Lost Self - The On-Going Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment - The Consequences of The Unresolved Abandonment Ebook

    Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self - The Impact of The Core Wound of Abandonment Book 1 features a thorough examination and explanation geared toward helping you understand Borderline Personality Disorder and gain insight into and awareness of the impact of the core wound of abandonment in BPD.
     
    © A.J. Mahari, September 2008
     
    It is the first ebook in what will be a series of 3 explaining, from the inside out, the many layers and various aspects of the impact of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists.
     
    This ebook includes 141 pages that provide a deeper understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder. Mahari has written a series of 3 ebooks that explain, explore, examine and define what she has termed, "the core wound of abandonment in BPD. This ebook, the 4th in this series explains the on-going impact of unresolved abandonment when someone has BPD.

    Mahari outlines what she has identified as the impact of the core wound of abandonment. This 4th ebook, "The Lost Self" in this series provides understanding about how the core wound of abandonment has impacted the lost borderline self and what that really means in terms of how BPD is experienced by those who have it.
     
    This ebook "Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder - The Lost Self" - The Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment will add to your understanding of the abandonment that is so central to Borderline Personality Disorder and how it drives every symptom/trait of that people with BPD manifest.
     
    First, one has to know what the core wound of abandonment is. And in this Ebook and the 5th Ebook of this series A.J. Mahari expands on the impact of this core wound of abandonment explaining many of the mystery puzzle-like aspects and manifestations of BPD so that those with BPD and those who are family members, loved ones or relationship partners of someone with BPD - non borderlines can really increase their awareness of just how to create the kind of change that recovery from BPD requires.


     

     The Rock and a Hard Place - The On-Going Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment Ebook
    © A.J Mahari, October 31, 2008

     

     

     

     

     

    This ebook features 133 pages of must-read information that explores the reality of The Rock and a Hard Place of and in Borderline Personality Disorder - outlining how the unresolved abandonment of the core wound of abandonment in BPD provides obstacles to recovery that need to be understood in order to challenge them and to begin to - or continue to - get better.

     It is the 5th ebook in this series of 5 Ebooks on the central and most important aspect of Borderline Personality Disorder - abandonment and its consequences explaining, from the inside out, the many layers and various aspects of the impact of what A.J. has termed the "core wound of abandonment" that she identified in her journey of recovery as the wound that is central to what BPD actually is and how and why it persists. understanding this core wound of abandonment and the obstacles it presents to recovery will help those with BPD find their way to the healthy change they so long for.

    The Rock and a Hard Place in and of BPD looks at 35 main Rock and a Hard Place aspects of BPD for both those who have BPD or for those who are in any type of relationship to or with someone who has BPD - non borderlines.
     
    Mahari explores the question as to what is normal versus abnormal and looks the reality that there is normal in what is the otherwise abnormal of BPD. Also examined is Borderline Ambivalence, Fear, Defensiveness, Emotional Dysregulation, Borderline Projection, The Masks of BPD, Grandiosity and Narcissism in BPD, the impact of Negative Psychological Associations and BPD, BPD and Devaluation, Self-Harm and Borderline Skewed Reality.
     
    The Rock and a Hard Place in and of BPD will help you to understand much more about the inner-workings of Borderline Personality Disorder whether you are a someone with BPD looking for a way to increase your own awareness and insight or a non borderline in search of a better over-all understanding of why the person with BPD in your life thinks and acts the way that he or she does.


    All Audio Programs are in mp3 format. All Ebooks are in PDF format. Audio Programs and Ebooks are available for electronic download only upon purchase.

     

     

     

     

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    Quotes From A.J. Mahari


    "The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

    "There are 10 Key Facts at the heart of Borderline Personality Disorder that every non borderline needs to understand. To begin facing the facts of BPD and what it means to the non borderline, you have to first know what the facts really are. Not just the traits that define BPD but the facts of what the experience is and why it is so painful for family members, loved ones, and relationship partners."

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "Facing 10 Key Facts About BPD - For Non Borderlines"

    "Hope for change and recovery in a loved one with BPD often causes non borderlines to compulsively focus on the borderline and try to fix him or her in ways that only increase the pain, suffering, and confusion for the non borderline. When is hope really hope? When is hope false hope? I talk about the different faces and consequences of hope. Hope is often one of the biggest hooks and traps for the non borderline and I explain why."

    -- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of BPD"