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"I bought A.J. Mahari's ebook, on Loneliness. Wow! So much insightful and informative stuff. I had not ever really thought about there being anything positive about loneliness. You taught me so much. I have been able to make some wonderful changes in my life because your ebook helped me to learn that the place to start was with my attitude toward and thoughts about loneliness. Thanks so much A.J. and may God continue to bless all the work that you do."

-- Sue Johnson, Australia

"A.J., your ebook about Verbal Abuse helped me to realize so much. I needed to know that I was placing myself in danger and that verbal abuse is not something to minimize. I also needed to know that toxic relating isn't love. Thanks so much for writing and making that ebook available."

-- Duke P., Ireland

"I have BPD and I had absolutely no hope for myself until I listened A.J. Mahari's Audio, Finding Hope From the Polarized Negativity of BPD. This and a few other audios I listened to taught me so much. I now have hope. I now understand how I have kept myself trapped in my own borderline chaos as a way of not feeling my pain. I can now change this. I highly recommend others with BPD listen to A.J.'s Audios for Borderlines."

-- Lindy Sinclair, U.S.A.

Lost Self In BPD - Need and Search For Identity

Lost Self In BPD - Need and Search For Identity

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People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) do not know who they are. They do not have a stable sense of any known self or a stable sense of known identity. There is a profound need to search for the lost authentic Self and for identity. At the center of BPD is the core wound of abandonment - an abandonment wound so traumatic that it causes what Melanie Klein referred to as the "psychological death of the otherwise burgeoning authentic self"

This "psychological death" that anyone diagnosed with BPD experiences causes such overwhelming pain at such a very young age in childhood that there is no way to cope with it. This pain then is effectively also abandoned which coupled with the loss of self creates the need for the rise of the borderline false self that in many ways is at the center of the on-going impact of the core wound of abandonment.

There is a need to actively search for the lost authentic self when you have BPD. In this audio program, Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari explains, from the inside out, the experience and effects of not knowing who you are. Mahari had BPD and recovered but she knows all-too-well what it is like to live without knowing who you are, without being able to answer the question, "Who am I?" Mahari also knows what it is like to lack a stable sense of identity.

If you want to know more about what it takes to recover from BPD and how possible that really is then you benefit from listening to A.J.'s motivational and in depth exploration of this lost self in BPD. If you are a loved one of someone with BPD you too can benefit from a deeper understanding of how the lost self and lack of identity in those with BPD drive so much of the thoughts, feelings, and actions of those with BPD that are hurtful to everyone.

The self that you have lost, if you have BPD, does not have to remain lost. You really can learn how to search for it and what that means. You really can find your way back to this precious self and to the identity that it holds within it. This is a major part of the work required to take the journey of recovery from BPD The Journey From False Self to Authentic Self - getting in touch with the inner child in BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder is not just the psychological death of your authentic self, and then living without a known sense of self and without a stable sense of identity due to unresolved abandonment trauma. It is also very much about a deep and profound wounding that takes place at your spiritual center on a soul level. Those with BPD often feel out of control and powerless because they are missing this spiritual center. A spiritual center that lives at the center of the authentic self.

The lost self and the need and search to find this self and your identity is not only the way to recovery from BPD but it is also necessary so that you can be re-connected to your spiritual center and reclaim your own personal empowerment from the core wound of abandonment that has left you unempowered and feeling or experiencing many aspects of life from a victimization that belongs in your past. To stop re-living that past victimization those with BPD need to find and reclaim the lost self and the spiritual center from which all human beings can truly then empower themselves in ways that those with BPD cannot access.

© A.J. Mahari August 2009

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"Each one of us is born alone. Born to be the very unique human being that he/she is. Each one of us will die alone. In between, in the natural order of life, there are times when we must be alone due to circumstance or times when we may need to be alone to take care of ourselves and find our own way through troubled and painful seasons. Being alone is not necessarily the reason for feeling the pain of loneliness."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Loneliness - Its Promise of Transformation"

"The collective experiences compiling in the very young infant are forming an internal representation of the world. The core wound of abandonment results in the destruction of the emerging authentic self. It destroys the very essence of the developing self. Emotional growth and development are arrested as the result of failure to master early childhood developmental phases."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Legacy of Abandonment in BPD"

"Why is it that we allow so much pain and chaos to be a part of how we define love? What is it that we still need to learn so that we can free ourselves from the burden and the pain of investing in rescuing a borderline? What is it that you still need more awareness about? What are the lessons?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Full Circle - Lessons For Non Borderlines"