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"I totally recommend that anyone who wants to really understand BPD buy A.J. Mahari's ebooks and audio programs. Along with all her stuff on the web they are even more insightful and informative. After purchasing A.J.'s products I did some life coaching with her too. A.J. doesn't just write about BPD, she has lived it. She has lived both sides of it. She is an amazing life coach too. With A.J.'s support I am making my way through the pain and grief of having loved someone with BPD and coming to terms with the reasons for the relationship and my need to let go."

-- Rick Meyers, Scotland

"I didn't think anyone else could possibly know or understand what I was going through. I also didn't think anyone could be so compassionate and patient with me as A.J. Mahari was as my life coach. She gave me support, information, and tools. Tools that have enabled me to truly find myself and to set and achieve my goals. Thanks so much for everything A.J.! -- Mandy"

-- M., Ontario, Canada

"A.J.'s Ebook and Audio Program for Non Borderlines - The Dilemma on The Other Side of BPD was a life-saver for me. From both the ebook and the audio program I learned so much about BPD that I still needed to understand so that I could make sense out of the chaos and turmoil of a relationship I was in and the pain of it all. This information helped me come to terms with the reality that love wasn't really what I thought it was. Thanks so much A.J.!"

-- Cindy Mcphail, London, England

Lost Self In BPD - Need and Search For Identity

Lost Self In BPD - Need and Search For Identity

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People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) do not know who they are. They do not have a stable sense of any known self or a stable sense of known identity. There is a profound need to search for the lost authentic Self and for identity. At the center of BPD is the core wound of abandonment - an abandonment wound so traumatic that it causes what Melanie Klein referred to as the "psychological death of the otherwise burgeoning authentic self"

This "psychological death" that anyone diagnosed with BPD experiences causes such overwhelming pain at such a very young age in childhood that there is no way to cope with it. This pain then is effectively also abandoned which coupled with the loss of self creates the need for the rise of the borderline false self that in many ways is at the center of the on-going impact of the core wound of abandonment.

There is a need to actively search for the lost authentic self when you have BPD. In this audio program, Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari explains, from the inside out, the experience and effects of not knowing who you are. Mahari had BPD and recovered but she knows all-too-well what it is like to live without knowing who you are, without being able to answer the question, "Who am I?" Mahari also knows what it is like to lack a stable sense of identity.

If you want to know more about what it takes to recover from BPD and how possible that really is then you benefit from listening to A.J.'s motivational and in depth exploration of this lost self in BPD. If you are a loved one of someone with BPD you too can benefit from a deeper understanding of how the lost self and lack of identity in those with BPD drive so much of the thoughts, feelings, and actions of those with BPD that are hurtful to everyone.

The self that you have lost, if you have BPD, does not have to remain lost. You really can learn how to search for it and what that means. You really can find your way back to this precious self and to the identity that it holds within it. This is a major part of the work required to take the journey of recovery from BPD The Journey From False Self to Authentic Self - getting in touch with the inner child in BPD

Borderline Personality Disorder is not just the psychological death of your authentic self, and then living without a known sense of self and without a stable sense of identity due to unresolved abandonment trauma. It is also very much about a deep and profound wounding that takes place at your spiritual center on a soul level. Those with BPD often feel out of control and powerless because they are missing this spiritual center. A spiritual center that lives at the center of the authentic self.

The lost self and the need and search to find this self and your identity is not only the way to recovery from BPD but it is also necessary so that you can be re-connected to your spiritual center and reclaim your own personal empowerment from the core wound of abandonment that has left you unempowered and feeling or experiencing many aspects of life from a victimization that belongs in your past. To stop re-living that past victimization those with BPD need to find and reclaim the lost self and the spiritual center from which all human beings can truly then empower themselves in ways that those with BPD cannot access.

© A.J. Mahari August 2009

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"Are you confused? Are you in pain? Do you find yourself overly-focused on the person with BPD? Are you trying to make sense out of the borderline's shifting moods or contradictory behaviour? I have been there. I know what it takes to break free on the other side of BPD. Breaking free from the BPD maze means getting back in touch and in tune with yourself."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "Breaking Free From The BPD Maze - Recovery For Non Borderlines"

"We have two worlds and one bridge. That bridge where we can journey toward connection is understanding. Let us all walk this bridge that spans our differences toward its centre with tolerance and an attitude of gratitude for these sacred differences that challenge us to shelter and nurture our humanity with care."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Asperger's Syndrome and Adulthood"

"Each one of us is born alone. Born to be the very unique human being that he/she is. Each one of us will die alone. In between, in the natural order of life, there are times when we must be alone due to circumstance or times when we may need to be alone to take care of ourselves and find our own way through troubled and painful seasons. Being alone is not necessarily the reason for feeling the pain of loneliness."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Loneliness - Its Promise of Transformation"